{"id":509,"date":"2026-08-28T14:00:05","date_gmt":"2026-08-28T12:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/blog\/hermanos-ninos-con-autismo-verano-1\/"},"modified":"2026-08-28T14:00:05","modified_gmt":"2026-08-28T12:00:05","slug":"the-brother-when-summer-feels-long-for-him-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/blog\/the-brother-when-summer-feels-long-for-him-too\/","title":{"rendered":"The brother: when summer feels long for him too"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">This is the third time this week that your other child has said \"okay, whatever\" and gone to his room.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">And you've noticed. Of course you've noticed. You've told him \"wait a moment\" so many times that he's stopped asking. He's learned, without anyone teaching him, that he's the one who can wait. The one who adapts. The one who doesn't cause trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">And inside, a different kind of guilt gnaws at you:<\/span> <em style=\"background-color: transparent\">\"I'm stealing her childhood.\"<\/em><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">In summer, this is amplified. Sixty days together, twenty-four hours a day, without school to break things up, without therapy to structure the day. And all the strain concentrated in one house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">What the brother carries (and doesn't say)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Siblings of children with special needs often develop wonderful qualities: tremendous empathy, maturity, sensitivity, and a capacity for caregiving. But they also carry burdens they almost never talk about:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Guilt<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">for getting angry with his brother, or for being embarrassed by him in public.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Normalized resignation:<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">plans that are not made, birthdays that are not attended, places where one cannot enter.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Pressure to be \"the one who's doing well\":<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">noticing that their problems seem small compared to those of the other person, and deciding not to talk about them.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">They need to get attention<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">by misbehaving, because they have learned that's how they get noticed.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">None of this means you're doing anything wrong. It means there's a difficult reality he's also experiencing, and it needs to be acknowledged.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">What can you do this summer<\/span><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Fifteen minutes of his time, sacred.<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">It doesn't take a whole day or a special plan. It takes a short time, every day or almost every day, where he's the absolute star: no siblings, no phones, no interruptions. Let him choose what you do. Consistency matters more than duration.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Allow him to feel all his emotions.<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Let him say he's fed up. Let him say he's angry. Let him say he's sometimes ashamed. And don't correct him with \"but it's not his fault.\" He already knows that. He needs to be able to feel it without being a bad person for it.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Explain to him what's really happening, at his level.<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Silence doesn't protect; it breeds fantasies. A child who understands why his sibling does what he does stops believing it's his fault or that it's contagious.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Don't make him a caregiver.<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Let him help, yes. But don't make him responsible for him. The phrase \"take care of your brother\" carries much more weight than it seems.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">Share the plans, too.<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">If the whole summer revolves around what one person can tolerate, the other person will miss out on summer altogether. Have one day of their own time, even if you have to find someone to spend with the other. It's worth it.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">When the game brings them together<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Here's something beautiful and very practical: your sibling can be the best language stimulator your child has. Not because you make them work on it. Because children imitate each other in ways they don't imitate adults.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">A brother who sings, plays, acts silly, repeats things, and waits for the other to answer is unknowingly undergoing therapy. And at the same time, he's building his own relationship with the other, one that doesn't involve you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\">When <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">the three of you<\/strong> \u2014or the two siblings together\u2014 <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">do the daily VICON Method session<\/span> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">, two things happen at once: your child learns with the most powerful model there is, and the other stops feeling like their sibling's activities are a separate world from which they are excluded. The songs become something for the family, not \"their therapy.\"<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">\ud83d\udc49<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">A little time each day that unites the three of you: try the VICON Method free for a week \u2192<\/strong><span style=\"background-color: transparent\"> <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.metodovicon.com\/login#registro\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"background-color: transparent\"><strong>https:\/\/www.metodovicon.com\/login#registro<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">This summer, let him feel it was his turn too. Even if it's just for fifteen minutes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This is the third time this week that your other son has said, &quot;Okay, whatever,&quot; and gone to his room. And you&#039;ve noticed. Of course you&#039;ve noticed. You&#039;ve told him &quot;wait a minute&quot; so many times that he&#039;s stopped asking. 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