{"id":604,"date":"2026-03-13T13:00:04","date_gmt":"2026-03-13T12:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/blog\/regulacion-emocional-en-casa-4-estrategias-rapidas-tea-y-lenguaje\/"},"modified":"2026-03-13T13:00:04","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T12:00:04","slug":"4-strategies-for-emotional-regulation-at-home-when-your-child-is-in-crisis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/blog\/4-strategies-for-emotional-regulation-at-home-when-your-child-is-in-crisis\/","title":{"rendered":"4 strategies for emotional regulation at home (when your child is in crisis)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Your child is in crisis. Screaming. Crying. Out of control. And your heart is racing, thinking: \"What do I do now?\"<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Here's an uncomfortable but liberating truth:<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">in a meltdown, your child doesn't need a lecture. They need regulation.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">It doesn't mean \"anything goes\". It means we first go back to green... and then we teach.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">This article offers<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">four practical strategies<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">to use at home during crises (in children with ASD and developmental\/language difficulties). They are simple, but effective when applied intentionally.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Before we begin: what is a crisis (in simple language)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">A crisis is not \"bad behavior.\" It is usually a nervous system overwhelmed by:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">unexpected changes<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">frustration<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">sensory overload<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">tiredness \/ hunger<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">difficulty communicating<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">If you try to \"win\" at that moment, the intensity increases. If you regulate, the intensity decreases.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Strategy 1) Safe space (not punishment)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">A safe space is a place where your body can unwind. It's not \"go to your room for misbehaving.\" It's: \"let's go to a place that helps your brain return to normal.\"<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">As it should be<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">don't worry<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">low light<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">few stimuli<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">ideally always the same<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">It could be a room, a corner with cushions, a tent, a rug.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">What to say (short script)<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">\u201cLet\u2019s go to the safe space.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">\"I'm here.\"<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">\u201cWhen your body is ready, we\u2019ll be back.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Strategy 2) Movement (to release tension)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Many children regulate their emotions through movement. In times of crisis, the body is full of \"stuck\" energy. Movement releases it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Quick ideas (5 minutes)<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">jump in place<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">run down the hallway<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">dance to soft music<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">push the wall (yes, push)<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">carry something \u201cheavy\u201d (books, a small box)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Practical rule:<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">5 minutes of guided movement is better than 30 minutes of fighting.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Strategy 3) Deep pressure (safety for the nervous system)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Deep pressure is a sensory tool that many children tolerate very well. The brain interprets pressure as safety.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Options<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">firm hug (if the child accepts it)<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">wrap in a \"burrito\" style blanket<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">gentle pressure on shoulders\/back<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">weighted cushion or weighted blanket (if you use one and it's recommended)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Important:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">never force<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">always look for \u201cyes\u201d or \u201cno\u201d signs<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Signs that it helps: the body relaxes, the scream subsides, and eye contact appears.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Strategy 4) Breathing (your calm is contagious)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">In a crisis, asking to \"breathe\" might sound like a joke. But if you do it and model it, the child's body can copy it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Simple guided breathing<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">\u201cInhale through your nose.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">\u201cExhale through your mouth.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Do it slowly. With few words. With your body as an example.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Tip: If your child is small, use a support:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">blow bubbles<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">blow a feather<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">blow out an imaginary candle<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">How to choose which one to use (without going crazy)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">You don't have to use all 4 at once. Choose based on what you see:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Too much noise\/stimulation \u2192<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">safe space<\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Lots of energy\/momentum \u2192<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">movement<\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">High body tension \u2192<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">deep pressure<\/strong><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Lots of emotional escalation \u2192<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">breathing (modeled by you)<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">After the crisis: what helps (and what doesn't)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">When the child turns green again:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Yes, it helps.<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">To describe what happened in a simple phrase: \u201cIt was difficult.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Teach an alternative for next time: \u201cWhen you need to stop, we pause.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Reinforce any attempt at regulation: \u201cYou\u2019re back. That counts.\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">It doesn't help.<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">long sermons<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">questions like \u201cwhy did you do it?\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">punishments that only add to fear<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Mini 7-day plan (to make a difference)<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">For one week, prepare this at home:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Define your<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">safe space<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">(and use it calmly too).<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Choose 2<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">movement<\/strong> options <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">that your child can tolerate.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Test 1 form of<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">deep pressure<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">(only if it accepts it).<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Practice<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">breathing<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">for 30 seconds a day when you feel well.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">The regulation is trained in green so that it can be used in red.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"translation-block\">Quick checklist<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">I have a defined safe space<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">I know which movement regulates it<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">I have a deep pressure option (if you accept it)<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">I lower the volume and use few words<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">Remember: first we return to green, then we teach<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/p>\n<p class=\"translation-block\"><span style=\"background-color: transparent\">If you want step-by-step tools to work on attention, imitation, communication and language (foundations that greatly help to reduce crises and increase cooperation), you can try<\/span> <strong style=\"background-color: transparent\">the VICON Method<\/strong> <span style=\"background-color: transparent\">for 7 days free.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"background-color: transparent;\">Android:<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/play.google.com\/store\/apps\/details?id=com.metodovicon.app\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);\"> <\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/play.google.com\/store\/apps\/details?id=com.metodovicon.app\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"background-color: transparent; color: rgb(17, 85, 204);\">https:\/\/play.google.com\/store\/apps\/details?id=com.metodovicon.app<\/a><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"background-color: transparent;\">iOS:<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/apps.apple.com\/us\/app\/m%C3%A9todo-vicon\/id6479298778\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);\"> <\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/apps.apple.com\/us\/app\/m%C3%A9todo-vicon\/id6479298778\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"background-color: transparent; color: rgb(17, 85, 204);\">https:\/\/apps.apple.com\/us\/app\/m%C3%A9todo-vicon\/id6479298778<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tu hijo est\u00e1 en crisis. Gritando. Llorando. Fuera de control. Y t\u00fa con el coraz\u00f3n a mil, pensando: \u201c\u00bfQu\u00e9 hago ahora?\u201d Aqu\u00ed va una verdad inc\u00f3moda, pero liberadora: en el momento rojo, tu hijo no necesita una charla\u2026<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":605,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[62,51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-604","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-autismo-y-comunicacion","category-desarrollo-infantil"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/604","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=604"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/604\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/605"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=604"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=604"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metodovicon.articagency.net\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=604"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}